Thursday Thirteen

Okay I am a little new at this entering links thing so if it didn't work I won't be real suprised. Thirteen Crazy Things That Happened This Past Week: 1. My husband survived and returned from a boys fishing trip with Todd and the Jons AND caught a stingray as well as several sun rays on his newly buzzed head! 2. My in-laws kept Ty Sunday night and enabled me to make 35 diaper cut-out invitations for a baby shower I am hosting later in June- actually got them in the mail too! 3. Had our last 'Teacher' day at Bright Horizons Monday 4. Had our last Ladies Bible Class Tuesday and revealing of our Secret Sisters, thank you Ruth Williams for all of your neat gifts and encouraging words. I am now a collector of Willow Tree! 5. Managed to get Mastitis (sp?) that same day (Tuesday) 6. Trent took over with kids while I was in bed all achey and feverish with the boob issues! Did a great job too! 7. Managed to rent AND WATCH two movies this past week: Fun With Dick and Jane (I laughed outloud several times!) and Cassenova 8. Baby is gaining weight eating peas and apple sauce as well as rice cereal three times a day. (probably the reason I got masititis) 9. Sister has started making Mamamama sounds that sounds like Mama to me! 10. My car would not start Monday so thankfully since Trent was gone fishing his car was available and I switched over kiddoes and we still made it to the work day. 11. Found out my roomate in college and post-college Amy (Dickey) Smith is pregnant with twins and due in January, probably more like December !!!!! They will be her third and fourth children. Pray for Amy as she has Diabetes as well. 12. Found out my sister-in-law Tina and her family are moving back here! Yea! 13. Ty is improving on his speech and singing songs! Thank you ECI, Lee Bremer!

Family Television???

Does it exist anymore? Everything that comes on past six O'Clock has the "Viewer Discretion Advised" before it. We used to watch CSI, Law and Order, and other stuff like that when we are actually home to watch television, Ty sits there and watches it too and its pretty disturbing to a two and a half year old. I thought he couldn't possibly understand what was going on at his age but the scenes are pretty graphic now days with all the dead bodies and all.

So the other evening, home just me and kids trying to cook dinner, found "Stewart Little" on ABC Family channel. Yea, something clean! I thought I have found a solution for something Ty can watch. Tried it again last night while doing laundry, nope.... "Big Daddy" with Adam Sandler was on. Is this now what they consider "Family" television???

So..... flipping around found a "Goofy" movie on Disney. Thought, that is good. Can't go wrong with Mickey Mouse! Well at the end the good guy wins but the bad guys are fighting and one says to the other, "Put me down you big fat JERK!". I also heard them call each other stupid. Things I am trying to teach Ty are 'bad' words! I am finding that a lot of cartoons now have mean words in them too like idiot, jerk, and things like suck and crap!

What the crap? HA- just kidding. Trent and I use this term (not in front of Ty of course!) occassionally reminiscing about Jason Donoho. Along with a thumbs down and spitting... but back on to the subject... Can kids watch anything besides Elmo and Wiggles DVDs anymore? Not that we watch THAT much T.V. but there is an appropriate time for it and not a lot of options.

For the last two days, other than the morning Wiggles, I have had the television completely off. This has been a little easier to do with Trent out of town (Boys Weekend), otherwise we would have to have it on for the PGA and ESPN! Ty picks up the remote all the time and says, "Daddy's" HOW SAD IS THAT!!!!! Also easier with it being so pretty outside, however its been real hot out here so we have limited that time to the mornings and late afternoon.

I think we rely too much on television as a culture. Some t.v. is okay but all day? No wonder so many children are obese now! Let's get back to what used to work, outdoors, indoor 'activities', etc. Its hard to do and get things done around the house as well, but I have started to try and include Ty in these activities too, as much as you can someone his age! I think its Dr. Phil that said in his Family First book that there age appropriate jobs for every age and its good to start at a young age not only to help out but to teach some resposibility. He picks up his toys each time we leave the house or when we are done in the bathtub or even outside. He can bring me his shoes and put them up and bring me his plate when he is done. I never fill a cup unless one is brought back to me!

Okay, I am off my soap box on the television issue but would like to hear thoughts from others.

Highlights From This Past Week

Sister is sitting up on her own! We actually captured it on film the moment it happened which was last Saturday afternoon. We also started peas a week ago mixed in with the rice cereal and now fruit as well. She had her six month well check yesterday and is real underweight so we are adding formula to the rice cereal. She did grow another inch and is now 26-1/2 inches long but only weighs 12.5!!!!

Later that afternoon we went to our friend Evan's 2nd birthday party and Ty had lots of fun in the bounce house in her backyard. We had my Bright Horizons Faculty dinner that evening at the church and later got to spend time with friends. We sat outside all evening and it was the perfect night for it. We got to see our friend Justin and his fun wife Jenny who we have not seen in two years and celebrated Aaron's 30th birthday. I have also included the picture that I promised earlier of both my 'buzz boys'! Ty is still waking up here after his nap before we went to the dinner.

This past Wednesday was also my last day with kids at Bright Horizons. I wish I could figure out how to post these pictures in order but I am just not that techno-savvy (is that even a word?) The last pictures I put on are showing up first. I need a blogging lesson! I am enclosing a picture of our little class. Not the best picture of me but please overlook that! I was having issues with my shirt creeping up and itchy eyes so the glasses are on.

Well Ty's speech therapist is going to be here any minute so we gots to get going. He is doing really well and about caught up, well he is, he is just plain stubborn! Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

Olivia Lane Phillips is 6 months old!

Six months ago yesterday I gave birth to this precious girl! I can still remember every detail ! As most of you know I was induced a week early and she only took three hours to get here. My epideral did not work and I felt absolutely everything but she was well worth it! I can't believe it has been six months and in this same amount of time that has happened in a flash she will be a year old! She has been a very easy baby but starting to go through lots of changes.

1. As you can see she loves to play in the exersaucer, or as I call "working on the f arm" Thanks to our sweet friends the Binkley's she is able to do so. Ty brings her animals from his little people farm all the time and she likes to chew on them.

2. She has been teething for about three months but still no teeth. She drools a lot more than her brother did.

3. She grabs at EVERYTHING and has quite a grip for her dainty little self! She likes to go for cups and pulls them to her mouth for a drink. She has already had some of Meme's tea and Grandmom's water!

4. She loves to hang out on a blanket on the floor and flips and rolls all around.

5. She is already enthralled by Baby Einstein and thanks to her brother "The Wiggles". Its like her 'off button' when turning them on. She watches them when the rest of us are at the dinner table so she will have something to do!

6. She smiles everytime her brother talks to her and has started laughing a lot. He gives her plenty of reasons to do so!

7. She would rather stand than sit and bounces while bending those little legs.

8. She is such a little priss! She shifts her weight and sticks that little hiney out when people talk to her!

9. She has been enjoying her rice cereal for the past month and has showen a definate interest in food. We will be starting the vegetables as soon as I can remember to do it! Thanks to Meme we have a nice start!

10. She has the most kissable little cheeks ever! She is in 3-6 month sleepers but because of her tiney little body still in 0-3 two piece outfits! I didn't think it possible but she is even smaller than Ty! I guess these two don't have a chance but to be long and lanky!

Okay I will stop at 10 but I could write a book on how in love with this little girl I am. Her little personality is so laid back. I just can't get enough of her. I feel so blessed to have her in my life and cannot wait to experience so many things with her. At the same time I want to keep her so small and snuggable forever! Well I will always snuggle her but I her whole body will not always fit in my arms. We have our six month well visit next week and I will post the physical changes at that point. Hopefully no more ear infections like her brother. We just went through a double ear infection with her two weeks ago. Just like Ty, she showed no typical signs. She had a 'smoker's' cough so I decided to take her in. She got a shot because she does not keep down medicine and healed quickly! She was a trooper and hardly even cried, did not even turn red!!!! She is much less of a baby than me even at six months!

Trent has been bugging me to get his and Ty's hair buzzed for months, since his Alamosa gig has ended. He will be wearing a hat everyday for the summer because he will be outside and thought it would be so much easier. He had his hair like this when we were first married and I found a picture of him and Chad Hackler from when we went to Depeche Mode, reminded me that it didn't look all that bad. I also saw Matt Jacobs and their little boy Brady who had just done the same and thought they looked precious so I decided to give in. Yesterday morning over coffee I mentioned I thought it would be okay now... .before I finished my sentence he was in the bathroom getting his clippers and yelling to Ty to get outside.............

Blessings

Well I promised more to come and believe me they just keep coming. One of which we turned down for other blessings. Last week Sprint officially offered Trent the Director of Business Operations (his same job at Alamosa) in Kansas City. I won't write the actual amount because its just depressing to see in writing what we are giving up but I will say it was an obscene amount of money for just his salary and that was not counting bonuses which they guarentee. They said travel would be less to about 50% of the time and were willing to work with him in order to get him there. We know the travel would end up being more than that and the three of us left behind would be alone with no family or friends to help us.

He has been the golf coach at LCU full time for the past three months and I have never seen him happier. The salary is almost laughable but we are making it thanks to his incredible severance and stocks to invest. The biggest perk as I have mentioned before, will be the time we have as a family. School has been out the past week and already we are seeing the benefits of him being around. Golf is his absolute passion and he is so good at it. He won his first tournament this past weekend. That was just him not the school, but talking about the school.... its looking like the girls will be going to Nationals! Pretty neat this being his first year and all.

I am just glad that we are not packing up right now and so excited to be together. Our school will be out in another week and we will then all be out at the course every day. Come home for lunch and naps and then to the park at sundown. Trent and I stayed up until the wee hours of the morning last week talking about the traditions we want to start in our family before our kids will remember the difference. We plan on being in The Word together every night after baths and kids are in bed. Its hard not to be greedy on the money end, especially since we now have a second child! But I would rather be greedy on the time issue. I have not enjoyed being a single parent and its just priceless to have a Dad around.

WARNING.........THIS IS PERSONAL..AND LONG!

I have been so blessed with various friendships in my life. Many people whom I have come in contact with and developed friendships with I still have in my life today. My oldest friend, Linnea I have known since first grade. I still talk to the core group of my highschool friends fairly often and usually get together with when home. I still talk to every roomate I have had in college and since graduation. God blessed me with many many people at my church Prestoncrest in Dallas while in the singles group there as well as in the Searchers class and later the Young Married and Growing Together class. Several of which I still keep in close contact with. I found it so hard to leave all these people in moving out west, but God has blessed me again with an incredible girls group and all the wonderful people in my new church home here at Greenlawn.

I came to sort of a sad realization today after discussing several spiritual issues with a friend, she is one of the few people out of all these that I have mentioned that I have had these discussions with. Why is that. I think I feel guarded in some situations and just fun in others that its not just appropriate to get real deep. Maybe I am not as deep as I should be when it comes to my faith or I would be talking about it much more amongst my chatter.

People from early on probably could write my testimony for me. Through all this I feel convicted to share both my factual and spiritual testimony with those who might feel inclined to read. I was born to parents with a Methodist background, or at least that is what they agreed upon as a couple. My dad's parents had a methodist background. My mother's mother was raised Baptist and her father was raised Catholic, how they ended up at a Methodist church I am not real sure of. I know as a teenager that my maternal grandparents attended the Baptist church and do not have a memory of my paternal grandparents ever being involved at a church. Later though my paternal grandfather changed to Jehovah's Witness- another story for another time, which by the way I will definately share, its very interesting.

I remember attending the Methodist Church as a child and my parents being very involved with the youth there. My Dad taught highschool for several years and I think that came very natural to him. For some reason I have memories of being in VBS and Christmas pageants there, as well as the ceremony of palms on Palm Sunday but no real knowledge of Bible stories other than that of the birth and death of Jesus. Not to say it wasn't taught, I just don't remember it. We quit going to that church I think around the time I was in third grade or so. I think it was because for some reason or another the pastor left and my parents were not real keen on the new one. We did not go anywhere for several years after that. We visited a few places but never placed membership or got real involved anywhere else for any extended period of time.

I grew up in the same house from when I was 2-18 which just happened to be accross the street from the parsonage of the preacher at the Baptist Church across the field from our house. I played outside a lot, mostly by myself but also 'rode bikes' with kids from down in the addition of our street. This preacher's little boy was outside a lot too. He was about 8 years younger than me and also an 'only child'. I thought he was such a cute little kid and saw him out and talked to him quite a bit. Through all this I got to know his parents too (Bobby and Judy Bridges) and when I was in 5th grade they invited me to go to a children's camp in Glenrose. It was there that I got real interested in Jesus' life and the sacrifice that he had made for me. It was there that I 'asked Jesus into my heart' and prayed to know him. When we got back from camp, there was a lady named Dottie Eastman who offered to study the Bible with me. We did so for quite a while. My mom would drive me to her house across town and she would explain things to me. It was about 3 years later I asked to study with the Preacher and what Baptism was about. We did so for several weeks and my parents came to those meetings with me. We all decided to be Baptised and were together on the same night after an evening service.

I remember being so shocked that Jesus would go through all that just so I would know Him, God, and be forgiven. I would write poems about it and was so incredibly touched. Then I became a junior high little brat. It scares me to think of what I could have done or what could have happened to me had I not had the support of an awesome youth group and some real encouraging people in my life. I remained very active in the youth group throughout highschool and sort of made it my mission to see how many people I could get to come to church 'Lock-ins" and jump on my bandwagon for the Lord.

Young Life also played a big role in my walk with The Lord. This is a non-profit, non-denominational organization aimed at bringing young people to The Lord. I had some incrdible leaders and very insightful study in highschool. All of my friends went and I think that is the core of what brought our little group together and that has held us together after all these years. It was during this time that I met my friend and person I consider to be my sister, Holly. We have been through so much together. She came to church camp in Falls Creek Oklahoma my senior year of highschool and she later introduced me to Abilene Christian University.

I can truly say that it was there at ACU in my college years that most of my sprituality was formed. Holly had a close family friend that went to ACU on a football scholarship. I had already planned on attending North Texas University but accepted an invitation to go with her on a highschool weekend there to help her check it out! Well needless to say I was totally taken by the fact that they cared whether or not I went there and thought how neat it would be to have an incredible Christian environment while studying in college. I had no idea that it was a 'Church of Christ' school until the last day of welcome week when attending Baker Heights in Abilene with my 'Energy Group'. I thought it was odd that everyone had been asking me specifically which church I had gone to previously and that so many people happened to already know each other through various camps and such! Okay, I was an idiot! It was not until that night when a thirteen year-old boy was speaking to the congregation on Women's Roles in THE church, which was very very VERY different to the role I had seen at Woods Chapel Baptist Church in Arlington! I really had thought that ACU was equivalent to TCU, and was so confused. I remember going back to my dorm room that night and talking with Holly and people on my hall all the doctrinal issues of COC and not feeling real good about it.

I went to my University Professor and had very lengthy discussions about it and decided that other than style of worship, it was not all that different from what I had believed and been taught previously. It was at that time that I decided I would never claim a denomination again and try to decifer on my own what I believe. That has been a real struggle for me and I am still working on it in a lot of ways.

Upon graduating I went to the Dallas area and attended Prestoncrest COC . I visited with my friends Bethany and Mandy and later became very involved in the Singles group there and met my husband Trent. He has been the most influential person on my faith of everyone. He did not come from a real strong COC background either. His mother was raised Baptist and his father was raised very conservative COC but Trent was not real seriously involved in church until about highschool age. Together we have been trying to figure out things ever since. He has so much more knowledge than I do. He taught a lot of classes when we were in the singles group and has since and has done a lot more in depth study through that.

I am learning that a lot of my faith has been based on 'blind faith'. I was required to take several Bible classes in college that because of the amount of information in a short period of time I ended up cramming and not really learning. It has not been until later in life that I am truly learning. I am trying as a mother now especially to get that knowledge in order to teach my children what God expects of all of us and trying to live up to that as well. Its a hard road at times and I don't want to take what others say as fact, I want to know it for myself and not believe something because someone tell me to. I want to beleive what I believe b/c God tells me to. I believe that He inspired The Word and I want my children to come to that belief as well, but I want them to question their beliefs and decide for themselves what the truth is so that it is THEIRS and NOT MINE.

Thanks to so many people in my life I have a lot of spiritual encouragement and accountability and I thank these people for letting God use them in this way. I can thank specifically my friend April today for inspiring me to get in The Word more often and acquire that knowledge for myself that I want so bad. I am not Baptist. I am not Church of Christ, although I attend one. I am first and foremost a sinner, and because of Christ, a Christian. I am secondly a wife, and thirdly a mother. I have got to get this first part right in order for the latter two to be successful. I feel that it is important in having relationships for people to know this personal part about me and my background. I want to know that from everyone else too and hope that this encourage other people to share their testimony as well.

My friend Denise gave me the idea to write my testimony in my children's baby books instead of the general, 'About Mom' stuff. I think it really is more important for them to know than where I worked and such so that they can know 'where I am coming from' all around. Especially if something happens to me before I can tell them myself.

Some incredible things God has done in my life:

1. Shown me TRUE love in the examples of people he has placed in my life such as friends, professors, family, my husband, my children.

2. Shown me that true happiness comes in Him and not in material things or in people. He has shown me this through taking people and posssesions out of my life. I thoutht that if I was to get married and have children, that then I would find true happiness. Both have brought me happiness but also pain and neither are perfect.......only He is.

3. Shown me that people are not perfect and if I rely on any one person I will always be dissappointed but if I rely soley on Him alone that I will always be successful- this got me through being laid off and the fact that I put my Design Director on a pedestal. Also true in a marriage. We are only human.

4. I can see Him and feel his love and comfort throuth the acts of kindness, encouragement, and support of others.

5. He provided me with a Christian Education and through this prepared me for the obstacles I would face in my first job, being the youngest by 10 years and only Christian.

6. He has given me a glimpse of what is like when hurts for us and his incredible indescribable love for us by letting me borrow two beautiful children.

This is a short list of the many many things that knowing God and there are just too many to write in a blog but I have journal upon journal of the rest of the ways knowing God has blessed me. Stay tuned for more.............